Pinterest Fails and Having Honest Friends

Not too long ago, a friend was kvetching about a woman she knew. This woman had low standards: she’d volunteer to do something, like bake cupcakes for a bake sale or do decorations for some party, and would do a terrible job. My friend, who has a serious perfectionistic streak (as do most of my …

Password Absurdities

Last night, I finally broke down and told Z that I was mildly upset that he hadn’t changed all of his passwords to have something to do with me. Like how his banking pin number isn’t my birthday, or his email password something like: “EmilyLoveLifeXXXX”. (With “XXXX” being the year we met, got married, or …

Never Forget: Fashion Has Its Victims

Recently, all, I celebrated my birthday. It was wonderful; I was showered with gifts. (That’s right – I’m a cancer. I mean, if you believe in that stuff.) With my gifts, I went shopping. As you know, I love the shopping. I love fashion, I love seeing what’s out there. I saw some beautiful things. …

Oh Come All Ye of Little Faith

I complained to my dad about something the other week, and he snapped at me: “to whom much is given, much is expected.” He was telling me, basically, to shove it. He reminded me, in so few words, that I can spend my life complaining that I haven’t been given more, or I can actually …

Fight Inequality: Hire a Minority

Lots of people – lots of non-black, well-intentioned people – are heartbroken by recent news for Louisiana, Minnesota, and Texas. They think about racism and police brutality and how awful and senseless the deaths of young men like Philando Castile and Alton Sterling are. Their deaths were senseless, but if you really want to help, …

When Yoga Doesn’t Help

Years ago, I received some excellent advice. Like any can-do young person, I’d taken all the odd jobs that came my way. If I saw something at work that needed doing, I’d do it – no complaints. I worked long hours, I held down the fort. I made improvements, I took on extra tasks. I …

Learning the Same Lesson, Over and Over: On Maturation

I get frustrated, a lot. And easily. Someone told me recently┬áthat maturity – real, true maturity – is a combination of three aspects. Truthfully, I think this is oversimplified, but for the purposes of this post, it will do. The aspects: 1. Ability to formulate and achieve goals (Delayed Satisfaction) 2. Impulse Control 3. Acceptance …